a Japanese gay guy I know ONLY dates Black men, but no one criticizes his taste.
Or, if the reaction is not totally negative, they are always INVASIVELY curious about every aspect of our relationship. Women are more polite, but shake their heads as if to say “what a waste.” Even my girlfriends who are Taiwanese don’t like asian men..
WHY is there nothing but negative reactions from anyone who hears that my boyfriend is asian? I seriously feel sorry for Asian guys who are just trying to get dates out there, having to work against this enormous negative image. I can only imagine how much worse it is in suburbia.
The reactions don’t seem to be specific to the country he is from… says anything negative when I mention my Chinese husband.
they are just so grossed out that anyone can actually date an asian guy. But then again, I live in the middle of nowhere, work from home, and I can’t even remember the last time I mentioned him to someone new.
She began to withhold affection, and her mood was so unpredictable that he felt like anything he said or did would be attacked.
The girls might have, say, watched things like Sixteen Candles a few too many times, clueless to the reality that there are so many amazing Asian men (and, in my case, Chinese men 😉 ) out there.
If you ever run into such imbeciles again, why not take their negativity and throw it right back at them with a good comeback? 😉 Or better still, just learn to distance yourself from the negativity.
Strangest of all, she began to lie about certain things yet seemed convinced she was telling the truth. Because you can’t predict her responses, you become hyper vigilant to any change in her mood or potential outburst, which leaves you in a perpetual state of anxiety and possibly fear. There is a massive infrastructure in academia, politics, and pop culture that serves to support women who are abused by men.
Weeks after a weekend in Las Vegas—which he had paid for—she complained that she was “tired of paying for our vacations.” After the divorce, she insisted on having their daughter on the days when he wanted to take her to play basketball, her favorite sport. Palmatier, the author of a forthcoming ebook You’re constantly on edge, walking on eggshells, and waiting for the other shoe to drop. This is a good thing, as violence against women remains prevalent and a problem.
Is it the media that refuse to let Chinese men become one the next Harrison Ford or Cary Grant, that iconic sexy and strong leading man? Whatever it is, it’s obviously these people who have the problem, and not you.