There is nothing wrong with emitting sexual interest, but how would you feel if that was the first and/or only message that a stranger conveyed to you?Let’s look at a few of the horrible moves that “respectful” dudes make: Using “Can I Buy you a Drink” as your Opening Line Seriously?Are you that “sold” on the “hottie at the bar” that you will morph into her yes man? Negging, in my mind, comes less from a place of “I think you are shit” and more from a place of “I’m not afraid to disagree with you.” For instance, if I was talking to a curvy girl, I wouldn’t say “You are so fat”.I’ve watched countless friends of mine, all with very passionate beliefs, throw their values out the window in the company of a pretty girl. If I was talking to girl who liked Green Day, though, I might give a sarcastic eye roll and playfully (as in, with a smile on my face) say something along the lines of “I can’t believe you listen to Green Day still, we could never date.” The problem with unwavering agreement is that it’s dull (might as well tape record yourself saying “cool” and save yourself the vocal work) and it actually keeps you from really engaging with the girl.
Be really sure if your partner would be up for sexting, then only press the hit button; some people are thrown off with sexts. Does this sound familiar, like how most guys interact with girls at a bar or on a date? Regardless of my mood when I interacted with him, I never had an ounce of respect for him.“Guys don’t like easy girls, and girls don’t like easy guys.” She tells me that guys come up to her all the time, trying to buy her a drink, or calling her pretty, bragging about how much money they have, or even trying to hug her over the bar often minutes after just having met her.The problem with this is that it reveals so blatantly every guy’s intention (sexual desire) and prevents her from having great conversations with guys who would probably be really cool if they could just stop being buffaloed by her physical appearance.
It’s obvious, and it’s boring, but most importantly, it shines the world’s biggest spotlight on just how strong your desire is to get with the girl, often larger than your own self-respect or any attempt to make a real connection with her.