In one event, there was hardly any space between the tables.I could hear every awkward conversation, and not just my own.This suggests that a speed-dating context is one that generally attracts people pursuing long-term mating tactics (or at least report that they do! Sex differences were also evident, with men mainly basing their decisions on facial attractiveness and women using more criteria, including high levels of sociosexuality (willingness and desire to engage in short-term sexual encounters), low levels of shyness, and cues of current or future resource providing potential such as height, education, income, and openness to experience (but not indicators of steady resource striving such as conscientiousness).These popularity effects were not significantly influenced by age.
All of their participants were real singles whose sole motivation for participation in the study was to find a real-life romantic or sexual mate.
Consistent with parental investment theory, women, on average, tended to state an interest in long-term mating more so than men did.
This was only relative though: both men and women reported a desire for long-term mating, and most men in this dating context did choose a long-term mating orientation. Popularity was heavily influenced by easily perceivable physical attributes such as facial and vocal attractiveness, height, and weight.
Certainly your chances improve if you put yourself in the company of others who also care enough about their happiness to admit “their way” isn’t working and invest in their future relationship success. If you are a mature, accomplished, single person seeking a lasting relationship.
And you can get yourself into the company of others with the same goal, you will not be single for long.
I did have some nice chats, but I had to wonder: was it worth it?