“The personal ads where they say, ‘I like to take long walks on the beach,’ those things are minor,” says Louanne Cole Weston, Ph D, a marriage and family therapist.
“It’s life philosophies that matter in a marriage.” What’s on the checklist of life a couple should talk through before the wedding bells start to toll?
“While you might not be ready to call the wedding off, having cold feet means it’s time to do some emotional work around getting married.” Therapy and some serious one-on-one time with your spouse-to-be are both smart choices; sifting through your thoughts and concerns is the only way to make it to the altar in one piece.
“People should know where the person they are dating stands on these topics before there is a proposal,” says Weston.This is a continuation of Men by Design 101 where you will learn how to apply in practice the full spectrum of knowledge you learned in Men by Design 101.We strongly recommend that you take Men by Design 101 first to get the most out of this class.“It’s important for brides and grooms to know that the jitters are OK,” Moir-Smith tells Web MD.“You know how to be single, or to be a son or a daughter, and now the jitters are a way for you to self-evaluate and change as you figure out how you are going to be as a husband or a wife.” While the jitters are relatively normal, one step up on the ladder of wedding anxiety are cold feet -- a phrase that sends chills down the spines of pending brides and grooms everywhere.
“If you’re going to call off a wedding, the sooner the better,” says Moir-Smith.