What joy you may have experienced in connecting with people is gone. And as far as you’re concerned, every lonely Friday night and empty Saturday is just proof that you’re fucked.Dating has gone from being something you approach with a heart full of hope and a head full of dreams to something you dread. You are going to die alone and unloved and every unanswered text is just more proof of this. “You’ve done all you can.” “You’re not doing any better.” “There’s no point”. You did things differently last time and look what happened?The problem is that the stress and the frustration builds up over time and grinds you down. Right now, all you’re doing is subjecting yourself to more of the same.And when that sense of futility builds past a point, your brain… You start feeling detached, like there’s no meaning. More stress, more frustration, more feeling like you’re lower than a snake’s ass in a drainage ditch.
It requires dealing with a certain amount of challenges and annoyances, and often requires sustained effort before you meet someone promising.There’s pressure to find A Relationship, at any cost.As a result, we end up being uncomfortable with the idea of, well… And so we keep throwing ourselves at the problem, and then wonder why it leaves us feeling like ten pounds of shit in a five pound sack.You drag yourself through the motions because you feel like you’re to… ” It’s hard to point to any one thing and say “clearly I’m feeling burnout” because that feeling of detachment, that cynicism tells you that you that it’s really . It’s the result of having been working so diligently on your social skills, on making approaches, on trying to get back up every time you’ve had your heart broken.In a very real sense, burnout happens, not because you’re weak or a failure, but because you’re .