However, she mostly goes out with jerks or “bad boys” who end up treating her poorly.Invariably, she ends up getting hurt and eventually breaks it off with him only to find another jerk to go out with.Rebecca isn’t self-aware enough to realize that she can be self-centered, nor is she able to see this in the men she goes out with until after they end up hurting her. Maybe she enjoys having drama in her relationships. Perhaps, sadly, she feels that she deserves to be treated that way.
For the uninitiated, this question can often dominate the conversation when it comes to male-female relations. With shows like Oprah diving into the question of , it’s no wonder that the phenomenon has become a part of our cultural understanding.
For myself, looking back years ago to when I was an impressionable young lad forming my first few intimate relationships, this debate was top of mind.
I didn’t know quite what it meant to be a bad boy (Did I have to kill someone? ), but I did know that I wasn’t one of them, and that worried me.
If she does enjoy dating jerks, then she’s not coming from a place of feeling whole or grounded within. When I went on dates, I found that I succeeded when I behaved authentically.
Women who truly love and respect themselves won’t put up with men who don’t treat them well. How do you behave around the people you are comfortable with? Those same traits are what’s most attractive about you when it comes to dating.
Back when I was first looking for love, I often heard a lot of dating advice that made me feel uncomfortable. We recommend this free personality test.)It’s not true, is it? As Dale Carnegie writes in How to Win Friends & Influence People, the infamous gangster Al Capone never thought himself guilty, but instead saw himself as someone who helped others. However, someone who is genuinely nice doesn’t need to tell people that.