I am no skinny minny, and there was a time in my life where I was most decidedly a fatty matty, so I understand the struggle. In internet dating parlance, slender means circus skinny.
But this isn’t about being large or small, it’s just about the funny things people do online. Guys don’t want to be thought of as slender, they want to be toned, muscular, or even imposing.
Women also don’t want to be slender because it makes them sound small-chested or, as Kelly suggested, too body conscious. Honestly, as far as is concerned, there is not a person on Earth who is carrying a few extra pounds. Now, if you’re one of these tyrants who doesn’t care for a little extra padding on your dates, then curvy may not be for you.
So no one’s gonna put themselves in this category unless it’s absolutely necessary. Could be anywhere from: to: Honestly About Average can run from Chris Christie all the way to Christy Turlington. Which is curious, because when you walk down the street pretty much everyone you see is carrying a few extra pounds. If I find a women claiming to be curvy, I email her almost instantly, regardless of any further details. Have an alarming fondness for using symbols instead of words? But in my experience, curvy reads as a bit of a boast, a way of saying “I’ve got a figure you’re not gonna forget.” And rarely has that boast not followed through.
Some women will think of the writer of the profiles below as weird, but…
ideally you shouldn’t be interested in “most” women anyway, but you should be targeting those women with your profile that you believe you will get along and will have a connection – whether you are looking for a short-term dating, a lifetime partnership or anything in between: “About Me: I would hate to bore you by telling you how wonderful I am by attaching to my name a bunch of flattering adjectives.
Last week we brought you the story of Max, a man who stood up his date when he discovered she lied about her body type. Now “athletic and toned” is another tricky description given my surroundings, particularly when I’m a member of Gold’s Gym (beef cake central).
Anyone who has been to a Scottsdale club on a Saturday night, or a Monday for that matter, will know what I mean.
However, it has one major flaw that will make many women skip over it. Lets look at another bad profile: “I went to school in the east coast, but now I work for a major software company where I work up the corporate ladder. I love hiking, watching baseball, and bbq on weekends.” – the writer must be reminded that this is a dating profile – not a resume or a sales presentation in front of his human resources department. as a rule, you should never start your profile by talking about school or work, as it’s not interesting and not really relevant to what you should be trying to achieve – to catch a woman’s attention.” “I love to have fun, party, dance, and drink of my buddies.It’s something we’re all aware of – whether we’re toned or not – so we’re unlikely to lie.If our physiques are impressive, we have no problem telling the world, but if they’re not we just quietly change the subject.Now, for the ladies, I would imagine “Athletic and Toned” is the closest male equivalent to the “Curvy” sweet spot.Where women can be prideful of their curves, so are men about their muscles.
They know they could probably get away with a skinnier label, the way everyone else is behaving, but they’re gonna be honest and straightforward. You’ve got enough interest coming your way already, so I’m gonna focus on the normal humans like me.