In his book , John Eldridge says, “When all is said and done, I think most men in the church believe that God put them on earth to be a good boy….
That’s what we hold up as models of Christian maturity: Really Nice Guys.
If people don’t respect your boyfriend, they will have a hard time respecting you. He may shower you with compliments, attention, and excitement, but the moment you cease to keep him happy, he will lose interest in you.
Soon, he’s off looking for another woman to indulge his selfish heart. The key lies in understanding your identity in Jesus.
Under stress, he started to work longer hours, and frequently stopped by the sports bar on his way home. Sincere Christian women often will ignore the nice Christian guys and instead pursue relationships with the “bad boys.” Some ladies even find that they're only attracted to the rebels. Before answering that, I think I need to explain what I mean when I say “bad boy.” A bad boy is a man who is outwardly attractive, but he’s unwilling to offer sacrificial love in a relationship.
He swore to Cindy that he was just talking with his friends. And he’s too immature and preoccupied with himself to share genuine compassion, concern, or acceptance.
Bad boys tend to be more assertive than the nice guys.So after all that, why do women find themselves attracted to these kinds of guys?Some women allow their nurturing instinct to seep into their love lives.She might even subconsciously think that marrying a bad boy can erase her past pain. A man might fake integrity over the short-term, but he will only mature when he makes the decision himself.If a woman thinks a bad boy’s character flaws won’t affect her, she’s just fooling herself.
They view bad boys as projects, or as people they can fix.