Going by the number of e-mails I’ve recieved, a few of you haven’t quite learned one of the lessons I’m always harping on here at Dr. So it’s time for me to quit coddling you and apply the hob-nailed boot of reality upside your heads. Stop me if this Craigslist blast from the past sounds vaguely familiar: You might vaguely remember a Platonic guy pal who always seemed to want to spend time with you. Nice guys have a tendency to be risk averse and a corresponding fear of rejection.
He’d tag along with you when you went shopping, stop by your place for a movie when you were lonely but didn’t feel like going out, or even sit there and hold you while you sobbed and told him about how horribly the (other) guy that you were fucking treated you. They don’t want to take the chance that they’ll make a move and ruin that she likes him. I can totally make him mine.” Nice guys, on the other hand, come pre-broken in. Nice guys are so worried about ruining their chances with that “one special girl” that they’re afraid to look at them crosswise, never mind sass them back. Some make a being bad; they try to dress like rockstars, get big sunglasses and ripped jeans and walka round with a sneer, talking a big game that they could never pull off. Take those aspects of the bad boy that girls find so appealing and learn how to incorporate them without becoming the sort of jerk that they’re associated with Be a little more sarcastic.
And are you stumped wondering why she would date a guy who treats her like that when she could have you who would treat her like a princess and give her everything she wants?
â€¨ â€¨Have you suffered from hearing the words, “You’re a really nice guy, but I only like you as a friend,” from a woman who you would do (or may, in fact, have already done) just about anything and everything for -- only to turn around and watch her date (or even chase) a guy who treats her like crap?
At the time, you probably joked with your girlfriends about how he was a little puppy dog, always following you around, trying to do things to get you to pay attention to him. They know, deep down in their souls, that they are, frankly, the shit. They assume it’s already a foregone conclusion and make their move accordingly. Well, hell, there’s more women out there; time to move on and find someone better. Nice Guys are frequently masters of the art of passive-aggressiveness. They run too and fro like little puppies fetching things and wagging their tails in hopes of getting a treat. It’s the nerd equivalent of watching a miniature poodle strut around with a spiked collar.
They probably teased you because they thought he had a crush on you. Their posture and body language tells you that this is a man who can’t hear you over the sound of how awesome he is. This sort of abundance mentality keeps them from being completely hung up on the idea that they have one shot. Because they don’t want to take risks, they put their efforts into manipulating the social contract instead. This is part of why they put so much emphasis on being the ones who will take their girl “friends” shopping or out to dinner. Too many “nice guys” eventually come to the conclusion that if girls like bad boys, well, then BY GOD they’re going to be bad! The guys who go in the other direction end up skipping “Bad” all together and just become bitter assholes.
Recent research has revealed that many character traits are genetically predetermined.
Although nurture can distort or in extreme cases, subvert, genetics; close correlation's between gene pairs and social development have been observed.
Frequently in Sales, can talk to anyone and be convincing.He’s so sweet and he’s always there for me, but I only like him as a friend.” Or, “He’s such a good guy -- kind; thoughtful, generous, honest, loyal – but there’s no chemistry.He just doesn’t turn me on.” Sadly, I hear it all the time. Nice Guy, you cannot bore a woman into feeling attracted to you or into wanting to date you.So, now, you’re single again, and after having tried the bar scene for several months having only encountered players and douche bags, you wonder, “What happened to all the nice guys? Nobody is sitting around saying “I’ll call her a worthless whore. He was considered to be Hollywood’s most eligible bachelor and every gossip rag wanted to know who the woman would be who could finally tame him. ”, my friends, is the sound of the impotent nerd-rage of The Nice Guy. He’s the one who follows you around saying he was your friend, all the while holding on to his not-so-secret agenda of trying to eventually woo you off your feet. Bitches love being called worthless whores.” So what is it about these “bad boys” that revs a woman’s engine?
I’ll bet you’ve never heard a woman say she didn’t want to date a guy because he was too confident, too passionate, or too exciting -- have you?