The Career Obsessive: Here's the thing about dudes: They are not all that great at multi-tasking, but The Career Obsessive is the worst of the lot.
His sole goal in life is to rise to the top and it's not until he gets there that he'll actually be emotionally available.
Welcome to just one of the signs that your partner is emotionally immature. As a former Domestic Violence Victim Advocate and Planned Parenthood Certified Responsible Sexuality Educator, I've seen the ways emotional immaturity rears its ugly head and how it can destroy relationships.
Believe it or not, emotional maturity doesn't necessarily have to do with age.
The woman he wants: A woman who "needs" him and makes him feel strong, capable, manly, and, most of all, NOT CRAZY in comparison.The woman he wants: Someone who reinforces his anger at his ex by committing the same "sins" she did. Unfortunately for both of them, he'll never be able to work through his anger completely with that kind of black-and-white attitude in which he's the sole victim. What he really needs: To stop feeling sorry for himself and take responsibility for what happens in his life.What he really needs: To find closure with the woman who "wronged him," but not necessarily through confrontation. The sooner he realizes that life is what you make it, the sooner he'll have some much-needed company in his bed. The Frisky: 12 celebs who've denied getting breast implants 9.The Eternally Brokenhearted: He hasn't gotten over the chick who broke his heart and he holds what she did against every other woman he dates in subtle ways. Everything seems completely impossible to The Eeyore, which makes being around him unbearable. That special someone who will be his personal cheerleader and spend all of her time trying to get him to look on the bright side even though he is completely incapable of seeing life that way.
In the first few weeks and months of dating, as our best selves are presented, we've found ourselves thinking, Finally, a guy who isn't emotionally stunted! But at some point, the curtain is pulled back just like in the "Wizard of Oz" and, yup, his emotional issues are right there. If his mother expected him to be "the man of the family," he may be looking for a woman who is helpless and needs taking care of. What he really needs: To realize that you are NOT his mother.