It is important to note that historically many of these mainstream rituals were strictly confined to heterosexual dating.
In the early days of dating, many century America was all social capital, decorum, and familial oversight.
So, while an early, frank discussion may seem odd and intense to a Brit, it could stave off a relationship catastrophe later on.
As the American conception of intimacy evolves, so does society’s approach to dating.
This ritual may seem overly cautious, but in a society in which the Catholic Church was an incredibly powerful institution that prescribed marriage as an integral part of God’s plan, this was not a decision that could be made lightly.
Women especially were impeded by the law, which still did not acknowledge them as capable of claiming possession of property or monetary assets.So, unless it’s the second meeting and your date presents you with the wedding “mood board” she’s been working on since she was seven, try not to recoil at her forthrightness.At least this way you’ll quickly identify whether you want the same things.If it’s not been mentioned yet, best assume your date is currently pretending to laugh at a couple of other people’s jokes too.This candid communication style might not sit well with awkward, bumbling Brits — especially men — who tend to recoil from conversations about their feelings.
Art and philosophy began to reflect a new world view in which love was prescribed as the ideal foundation for a marriage, even taking precedent over considerations of property.