Whether or not you tell your parents about him or not, it's a lose-lose.If not, the sneaking around, lies and secrets will strain your relationship. Sleeping with him might be a bigger emotional deal for you than you think. However cool it makes you is exactly how lame it makes him.
Next thing you know, he's your closest friend as well as your boyfriend — which creates a co-dependent dynamic that's bad for any relationship.8.
And if you tell them, you'll deal with all-out fights.9. No matter how special he insists you are, the chances are that he's been dating younger girls for years.10. I know hearing that is like sticking a fork in your chest and ripping your heart out. Maybe you're sure that you won't be dramatic about it, like "other girls." But that shit tends to sneak up on you. And maybe somewhere down the road, things will be different for both of you.
And it doesn't mean you're weak or naïve— it just means that you value yourself. If he's married, he's not going to leave his wife for you. Let me rephrase that: It probably last, because as you get older, you'll change (which is normal and great so don't fight it! But the only way for that to happen is to let it end when it's supposed to.
Sometimes you just have to accept that you might be messing with a party pooper, and from there you will have to determine if his lack of spontaneity is enough to make you leave because you feel you’re being held back.
But for the most part, suggesting a range of fun things that don’t become repetitive could get him out of his set ways slowly but surely. Like I said, if you allow it, things can get pretty dull.