He was concerned about how his sexuality would “change.” I had another similar experience on a first date where a man greeted me, hugged me, then said he left something in his car.
After a couple of minutes, I got a text from him while waiting alone at our table that said he had to leave because my transgender status was giving him anxiety.
I usually get very forward messages from guys who just want me for my body.
They view me as exotic, a kink, something new to try.
After realizing that I deserved so much better and was wasting my time with these guys, I stopped giving them attention.
We met in the late afternoon and enjoyed our frozen yogurt in perfect patio weather. At the end of the date, our first kiss quickly turned into a handsy make out session in the backseat of my car. He said, “I’m bouncing; that’s f-cked up,” and jumped out of the car, spat on the ground, slammed the car door and walked away.
As a 22-year-old grad starting a career in fashion (and hopefully, one day, my own size-inclusive clothing line), I am drawn to guys who are funny and ambitious.
There’s no bigger turn off than someone who does the bare minimum—except maybe body odour. Being 5’9″, I still like to be able to look up to my man, literally.
I get plenty of matches on Tinder, but within 24 hours around half of them un-match or block me after reading my profile.
Whenever I do start talking to guys who “stick around,” I make sure that they know I am transgender before meeting them.
These guys want to chill somewhere less public or exclusively at their place so they won’t be seen with me.