How could I do all the right things and him bless her instead of me?
Sex and love are very different, but they are meant to complement one another. They are very different, and it can be dangerous to mix them up.Whatever the circumstance, it’s common to compare and wonder what God is doing for others and not doing for us. For me, I moved to China to be a missionary and expected God to protect me from what I considered worst-case-scenario. He spared my friends, but allowed me to go through something extraordinarily difficult. Take a minute to let that soak in–Dad says we are his delight, his beloved.It was hard to wrap my mind around the fact that following Christ or doing the right thing or dating the right way didn’t guarantee blessings. I love to remind women that God is a good Dad because that truth took me more than a decade to realize. Why would God reward a ‘prodigal’ sister with a husband and allow you to stay single? When we measure our circumstances or compare our blessings to that of another, it’s easy to feel slighted, overlooked, and even abandoned. He is a good Dad loves you and blesses you no matter what you did or didn’t do.Many Christian teens that have already had sex choose to act as if they have never had sex and vow to wait until marriage. God is very forgiving, and He smiles at those who return to Him with a desire to do His will.While the temptation for someone who has had sex can be even stronger than the virgin, it can be overcome with God's help.
Some people use the term "technical virgin" when describing their sexual status.