He recently found an apartment on Second Avenue and 10th Street for three men in their early 20s, one of whom broke up with his girlfriend so he could move in with his friends and “extend the college experience before moving in with girlfriends down the road.”“His dating life has skyrocketed,” Mr. “He sends me texts all the time.”Elie Seidman, the chief executive of Ok Cupid, an online dating site, said that while he believes that moving to New York might improve a person’s romantic odds, he didn’t believe there was “a magic neighborhood cure.” Census data shows that neighborhoods with high concentrations of single women don’t often match up with those that have a lot of single men.
Between 20, Bensonhurst, Brooklyn, had a 36 percent increase in the number of single men (single being defined as a person aged 20 to 34 who has never been married) to 15,121 from 11,127, and a 31 percent increase in single women, to 12,272 from 9,361 — one of the largest increases in the city, according to the census bureau’s American Community Survey. And for those hoping to meet in what her clients often refer to as “the natural way,” neighborhood can make all the difference, she said. One evening, she saw an attractive man at an event on the Upper West Side, where she lived, but she was too shy to approach.
She worked in finance and dated “meatheads who wore baggy jeans ripped at the bottom and didn’t want to do anything but drink beer and watch football.”After ending a long-term relationship with one such meathead, she left her job to go to business school and moved to 1 North Fourth, a luxury rental on the waterfront in Williamsburg, Brooklyn, which suits her perfectly.
“It’s full of people who are like-minded: creative, well-traveled, educated, curious,” she said.
“The vibe was great — everyone was ready to have a good time and tell you their story,” she recalled. I don’t want an hour-and-a-half obstacle just to grab a coffee.
“I texted my mom and said, ‘I want to move to Woodlawn.’ Within a few weeks I was in a Realtor’s office.”Last May, she did indeed move there, to a one-bedroom co-op she bought. “There are a lot of young people here because it’s a fun place to live. I don’t want to end up coming back at midnight on some train that stalls in the station because of an investigation.”Nancy Slotnick, a dating coach, said that proximity was crucial for many single New Yorkers.
Based on that data, the New York City Economic Development Corporation declared the neighborhood “an attractive spot for all young singles” in 2014. The area “is not such a good spot for single people,” said Mirsad Kadribasic, 41, an owner of La Bohème Lounge on Stillwell Avenue in Bensonhurst, which on a recent Friday night was half-filled with couples smoking hookahs at velvet banquettes. It’s not like Park Slope, where people are hanging out all the time.”The neighborhood had plenty of bars, conceded Mr. Afterward, she was standing on the sidewalk and he walked by again.