Essentially, according to the theory, the stability of all relationships are the result of each individual making decisions about the following: So, we form relationships with people who give as much to us as we give to them (ratio), treat us in accordance with our expectations (satisfaction), and are our best alternatives at the time and place (dependence).But, others are making the same calculations about us back.Those advertisers use tracking technologies to collect information about your activity on our sites and applications and across the Internet and your other apps and devices.You always have the choice to experience our sites without personalized advertising based on your web browsing activity by visiting the DAA’s Consumer Choice page, the NAI's website, and/or the EU online choices page, from each of your browsers or devices.(They probably will, of course, that I don't think that should be your motivation.) I say work on yourself but honestly, trying to wait till all is great is setting yourself up to fail as well.
So I would say to the traumatized person: yes, work on your trauma, but do it for yourself, not because you think others will like you better if you do.
Rather, I had the idea of "value" in mind in the pick-up sense. Sometimes I have a challenge in juggling three different "languages", as my readers speak a mix of plain English, "Academic", and "Pick-up".
In the future I will redouble my efforts to make the distinction among terms even more clear (for myself and others).
Essentially, values in this sense, would give the individual "allowable parameters and guiding information" to set goals and make feedback adjustments, that would still be congruent with his/her desired self-concept.
So, it does answer the whole "how do I set goals" and "how to I decide how to adjust from feedback" questions.
When a relationship is a good deal for both partners, they stay and trade together. Take a moment (or longer) and figure it out.2) Decide what you will give in return - There is no such thing as getting something for nothing. So, what are you planning to bring to the exchange? Think about all of the strengths, benefits, and positive qualities you have to share with a partner. It is unrealistic to expect to buy a mansion with pocket-change. Who cares if you can get the girl by temporarily being self confident, if it isnt already who you are chances are your lack of it will show up in your relationship causing your lady friend to be disapointed,and finally, if its not who you really are why the hell would you want to be with a women who made that a priority?