While he was not physically abusive, he raged at me when I questioned his behavior or disagreed with him, called me immature, insecure, or overly sensitive when I reacted to his criticism or judgements of me and was dismissive of my opinions and emotions that were inconvenient to him.He also lied about his age, would not let me see where he lived, and had serious financial troubles.Reply My ex (now..) wrote to my own mom after writing to my best friend complaining about how I broke up with him in a cold sudden way and how he is left heartbroken, crying a lot….basically he is telling my mother that I am the bad guy and he does not undertsand why….. But he just wrote to my best friend (through email) to ask her what led me to break up with him, as he said “I broke up with him in a cold way which was inconsistent with my character” and he wanted to undertsand the reasons …I just hope he is not going to contact my family, exes…etc…I keep the no contact rules and that drives him crazy.
Reply Beware the sneaky ones out there who don’t quite fit the descriptions!
I am sorry that the dreams for the future we shared are gone.
I mourn his loss, but I am glad he is free of the past and at rest. Phyllis Reply Thank you for this very helpful and important information. Its very hard to see friends with these types of people and its always good to be aware yourself In high school I definitely dated a guy like this who was emotional abusive and horrible to me.
I swear my almost ex read an article about how to break up.
Following a heinous discard he treated me with all of the above listed advice for detaching and had clearly developed an exit plan that I was completely unaware of. Even though he displayed all of the ‘Loser’ behaviors preceding my discard, I believe that HE believed I was the N.
Thank you for the encouraging words 🙂 It’s nice to hear that I’m creating change from time to time! I have been doing a lot of online research about domestic abuse and narcissists, and it helps to have that knowledge.